Choosing your bridesmaids can be a daunting task. You have to choose between your family, SO’s family, best friends from home, best friends from college, best friends’ best friends that you became best friends with, and on. It’s likely that you have a good idea of who you want standing up there with you but don’t want to offend anyone. Choosing your wedding party is a big decision and it’s important to base it off of who will be there for you and help make your wedding day seamless.
We put together a few tips to help you out.
1. Choose your responsible besties. These are the ladies who will help you plan (and plan without you), give you a shoulder to cry on, and more. You don’t want to worry about your flaky BFF… flaking.
2. Include your sisters. These are your built-in besties and guaranteed to be part of your life forever. If your husband or wife has sisters, include them too. If you have a complicated family dynamic, just make sure you think it through before making your final decision.
3. Finances. It’s no secret that weddings are expensive whether you’re planning them or attending. Think about how much you’re expecting them to be financially responsible for and be upfront about it before asking.
4. Don’t feel obligated to ask someone who asked you. If you lost touch with a friend who had you in their bridal party years ago or you simply have people you’re closer to, don’t feel bad about not returning the favor. That’s not what it’s about.
5. No selfish friends. You don’t want to add any stress to your plate so it’s important to make sure you’re not asking anyone who will complain or make it about them.
6. How many people are attending your wedding? If you’re having a 50-person wedding, it’s best to keep your wedding party small so it doesn’t look overbearing. If you’re having a bigger wedding, then the number of ‘maids you have is your call. There are no rules.
7. Think about other roles. You don’t have to be a bridesmaid to be a VIP in the wedding; there are other tasks you can “assign”. Remember, you can invite anyone you’d like to your bridal shower and bachelorette party – wedding party or not.
8. Choose who YOU want. This is the one that matters the most. When you’re looking back at your wedding pictures and videos, you don’t want to regret who was up there with you. People might be offended, in silence, and those who make it known should let that be a reminder that you made the right choice (see tip #5).